Randi Levinson has made the bumping, grinding and other sexy time things that may or may not be going on in your bedrooms her business.
The Yellow Springs-based sex coach recently turned her love of sex talk and helping others get it on into the “sex + love podcast,” which is available for download and subscription on iTunes.
The fact is, helping people stoke the flames on their own or with others is her passion.
“I love when people tell me about what is going on in their sex lives,” the mother of two said. “It is so intimate. It is so vulnerable. I think when people do it, they start to lighten up their shame and sort of see the magic that kind of comes out of talking about these things that are supposed to be so secretive.”
A marriage and family therapist by training, Levinson has been a sexologist for two years, holding office hours in Yellow Springs, Columbus and via Skype with clients around the nation.
Right now, the sex + love podcast focuses on conversation about sex with people from varied backgrounds.
Don’t think Dr. Ruth Westheimer, exactly.
As revolutionary as Dr. Ruth was at the time, Levinson said, Dr. Ruth is very puritanical and heterocentric by today’s standards.
Levinson, who was recently featured by Real Simple magazine, has an approach that is far less judgmental and more open.
“(It is) sort of normalizing everything so when listeners are listening they can sort of relate or have their minds opened or hear something new and be curious,” she told us.
So far, podcast subjects have included a conversation with a woman with chronic vaginal pain interested in kink and Tantra, a divorced woman finding her sexual awakening following a sexless marriage, a man trying to deal with a failing marriage and a long-distance relationship with a woman with who has multiple partners, a woman who struggled to keep intimacy in her marriage during the dry spell of pregnancy and postpartum, and how a Portland, Ore. sex worker navigated her relationship.
She is always looking for guests with good stories.
“I want to talk to everybody, even people who have no sex life,” said Levinson, who holds a master of arts in counseling psychology from John F. Kennedy University. “Everyone has their story.”
Hundreds have already subscribed to the podcast, which can be heard on iTunes and most major services.
Levinson said elements of her sex coaching methods may be incorporated into future love + sex episodes.
Sex coaching is not about to picking up a set of pom poms and meeting couples in the bedroom, Levinson said.
Instead, she said her approach is goal-based. Many are 12 sessions with a “check up” when needed.
“I want you to reach your goal and be gone,” she said.
Her clients range from those in their 20s to those in their 60.
Issues range from erectile disfunction to sexless marriages to loss of passion in long-term relationships to the inability to achieve orgasms.
“People think that sex and being sexually connected to others should come naturally and be organic,” she said. “It it sort of the glue that keeps you together; otherwise, you are companions and roommates.”
Levinson and her husband, Dayton native and filmmaker Joel Moss Levinson, moved their family to Yellow Springs from Los Angeles in 2011.
Raised in Chicago, Randi Levinson said she loves the village, which is known to have a quirky nature, artistic edge and free spirits.
Levinson said it doesn’t faze her when people look at her sideways when they learn she is one of the few sex coaches working in these parts.
“I don’t think I’ve ever been in the box. I think I’ve always lived outside the box and thought outside the box so it doesn’t matter as much what people think of me,” she said. “I feel like I am fulfilling my purpose and I think I am doing what is right.”
Levinson said wants to release the shame people have about sex and help them find solutions. Sex and passion are important parts of intimate relationships, she said.
“It is this constant fire that you need to feed, or the fire goes out,” she said.